It's All Good. | The Benefits of Good Mindfulness
Contributed by Candace Oxley
As Oprah often confesses, her ultimate goal is to fulfil the highest, truest expression of herself, and although this is a beautifully constructed statement, the human experience often makes excuses for why this can’t happen. Decision making comes in two forms, fear based or faith based, and the premise of your decision determines your outcome. I, therefore, think it is crucial to focus on maintaining a positive and uplifted mindset.
As the Editor of In Other News, the premiere news platform dedicated to sharing inspiring stories and reporting positive news, it occurred to me how detrimental it is to our well-being to be constantly fuelled with negative news. Here’s my take on why it’s essential to focus on what’s good in and around us..
1. Seeing yourself positively changes you for the honest, not just for the better
The idea of perfection comes from the awareness of being mature, not flawless. With maturity comes full self-acceptance and this encouraged me to look at myself holistically. I came to the realisation that my uniqueness comes in the shape of both the things I overtly like about myself and my imperfections. Embracing both helps me live in a space that I’m not always trying to rid myself of the things I don’t ‘love’. I am content that in my pursuit of loving who I’m becoming more, they can co-exist.
2. You care more about what you do have than what you don’t
In a time where ‘more’ of anything seems to be the worlds desired attitude, it’s easy to fall into the ‘woe is me’ trap. If your life doesn’t scream abundance, it’s not necessarily because you don’t have as much as anyone else, it’s often because you’ve failed to be grateful for the countless blessings in your life already. Yes, having more money might be your desire, but it means nothing if it doesn’t buy you the opportunities to live more authentically, give and love more.
3. Seeing others win is another trophy on your mantelpiece too
I believe that there is strength in numbers, and a community thrives as a unit so seeing another sister or brother overcome something, start something, or even end something, should feel like a personal win for you too. In a climate where comparison is more common than compliments, we have to do our utmost to find ways to celebrate each other more. Discouragement, disappointment and distraction are the three common reasons why people fall away from pursuing their dreams, and although we should thrive with or without validation from others, words of affirmation never go a miss. From experience, even when one person tells me they were inspired by one article on In Other News, it is enough to remind me of my why and as Aunty Mary J Blige says - “don’t need no hateration, holleration in this dancery”
4. You are no longer bound by decisions you didn’t make
Every moment presents a new opportunity to try again. I now view my life as a constantly evolving masterpiece orchestrated by God, and that involves the mountain top experiences as well as valleys. Understanding this freed me from the ‘shoulda, woulda, coulda’s’. Sometimes the reason we are not moving forward is because we are constantly using the past to define our futures. As far as I’m concerned, when you don’t ‘win’, you learn, and sometimes that’s the real achievement. The past is a place of reflection, not residence.
We function more effectively in harmony, and I’ve found that my life unfolds most beautifully when my thoughts towards my life and those around me are lofty.
I read a book called “What I know for sure” by Oprah, and in it, she wrote down twenty-five things that made her feel happiest. Her findings inspired me and caused me to do the same. In doing so, I found that 95% of the things on my list incurred no financial constraint and that there was no reason I couldn’t practise these things more frequently. While reflecting on the above, I challenge you to write your own happiness list, and I guarantee you’ll have a lot more to be grateful for.
In Other News
In Other News is the premiere news platform dedicated to sharing inspiring stories and reporting positive news on Black Britain. We report on businesses, initiatives and individuals across a wide spectrum of professions and industries to highlight the varied spaces we occupy. As a community, we are making progressive steps towards positive change in the UK, and we believe that should be more widely celebrated.