5 Ways to Overcome Failures
Contributed by: @AbigailLoriAnnn
Once in a while we receive a setback or experience failures, something that kicks us down, and refuses to let us up.
In that moment you have 2 choices; 1, you can wallow in your grief and stay down; or 2, you can get up, brush yourself off and start again.
It's much easier to do the former than the latter; why? because who wants to try again when they already received a near-fatal blow? Many are scared of the prospect of being kicked again, and if they do they might not be able to get back, or be too embarrassed to even try.
But that's life, isn't it? We need to fail to succeed, that way we can learn from our mistakes and letdowns and become a stronger person for it.
Here are 5 ways to overcome your failures, so you can get up quicker and start building the life you truly deserve.
When you've failed something, whether an interview or a relationship, it's easy to pretend you're fine and paint a smile over the pain, but don't do that.
You need to be in your feelings! If you feel like screaming at the top of your lungs or crying, then do it.
Wallow in your let downs.
Accept it by letting it in and allowing it to hurt you, instead of ignoring it and keeping it pent up. When you keep it in, it festers and manifest into something bigger, making the pain much stronger and harder for you to truly let go.
If you let it develop, the feelings will turn into random outbursts and mood swings. Something that isn't healthy.
When you've had a setback it's easy to believe that things will never get better and that life will always fail you, but this is just the disappointment talking.
The truth is, just because you failed this time, doesn't mean you'll keep failing. You never know what'll happen until you start again. I have a strong belief that everything happens for a reason, your failure today could be what makes you determined to strengthen your ideas tomorrow.
Seeing the negative aspects of your life as something temporary will help you to keep a positive and optimistic outlook on life, making you happier and your mentally happier.
When you've overcome your sadness, it's time go back to the drawing board.
This part can be particularly tricky, because who wants to relive their failures? But, to succeed It's necessary.
Think of it as valuable feedback and something you can use to improve and get better, not a blow, but a temporary hurdle that can easily be jumped over.
Write down what went wrong and what you could've done differently. Ask yourself questions such as;
● What can I learn from this?
● How can I avoid making this mistake again?
● How can I do better?
● Why did I fail?
Be honest with yourself as this will help with clarity and understanding. The important thingis seeing these disappointments as a way to strengthen yourself and to guide you in your success.
We always hear about people's success, and hardly anything about their failures. Why? Because we like to disclose the parts of us that are appealing and not show our worries or fears.
However, there are many people who've failed and gotten up again, or people who've become millionaires and were once living in poverty.
If you want to major in something, you need to read up on it; find the top people in that field; learn about their struggles, buy their autobiographies, watch their interview; devour their life before and after their success.
Or you can simply feed off of someone else's motivation and enthusiasm by talking to a friend, reading a motivational book or podcast. This can help shift your mood and mindset into a positive place.
The last and final step is usually the most daunting; getting the courage to try again.
You've just accepted your struggles, understood why it happened, learned to overcome it and found inspiration to start again.
But, to actually put all those things into practise and go back to the first step is always hard. To make it easier I always find starting small is the best thing.
It's better to start small, than to not start at all, and procrastinate because you're scared or because it's hard to start moving again after a rough period.
Split your plan into small steps and then take action.
You want to get a job? Make sure you have all the qualifications and essential traits first. If it means getting experience then work hard on acquiring it, so when you apply you know that you're beyond qualified for the job.
If you still have a hard time starting then go for a very small step, something that may seem insignificant, but will aide you further down the line.
The most important thing is to get started and believing in yourself and your abilities.
Written by: Abigail Lori-ann