Reality Check: 3 Ways to Focus on Your Own Path
Contributed by Bertha Moyo
‘Trash’ TV. The drama, unnecessary pettiness and arguments potentially started out of boredom, has always entertained me. Understandably, it would be more appropriate if I were addicted to programmes that would contribute to my IQ score, rather than watching Kim Kardashian cry over losing her diamond earring in the ocean.
I believe that as human beings, we become so easily consumed with what is happening on social media, reality shows and in the media that we end up disregarding our own personal hurdles. So, I have come up with three major keys that should hopefully help as a form of discipline, in maintaining focus on our own path.
1. A social media cleanse is necessary every once in a while
In my opinion, social media is fictional. It is not necessarily a showcase of people living their ‘best life’, but instead a showcase of people living their ‘ideal life’. I suppose I can testify to this, as I only post on Instagram or Snapchat when my life is somewhat in order. When I am having a mental breakdown over my unfinished coursework at 3:42 in the morning, posting on any of my social media accounts is the last of my concerns.
With all of that being said, I have realised that there are many other people like myself who only show the best parts of their lives. There is nothing wrong with this – but it’s important to not become too consumed with what is happening on social media as it can distract us from what is happening in our own lives.
2. Your reality is personal to YOU
Whilst this may seem painfully obvious, I can sometimes tend to drift away from what is happening in my own reality when I allow myself to become consumed with other people and their problems. Over time this has ended up becoming one of my worst habits – disregarding my reality due to prioritising what other people may be going through. Although there is nothing wrong with wanting to help other people, continuously pushing aside our own struggles can become toxic to our mental health.
3. The best is yet to come
With what is shown on reality TV, social media and the media in general, it is easy to begin to feel inadequate compared to those who have become successful. However, it is important to remember that timing is essential; rushing into major life decisions based on wanting to be like your peers may cause you stress and frustration when things don’t go to plan. If anything, remind yourself, that even though not everything is perfect now, the best is yet to come.
From this, I have learnt that it is necessary to recognise the importance of our own personal reality, without comparing or focusing on other people by taking care of ourselves first in order to ensure a good level of mental health.